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The Importance of a Father in the Home

The Importance of a Father in the Home

This picture below is from seven years ago when my husband was holding my now 8 year old daughter.

We have many pictures of my husband holding all our babies, rocking them, or playing with them as children.

His love as a father has played such an important role in the raising of our children, it is an irreplaceable factor in our children’s lives.

Even though a mother’s love is important, a father’s love is just as important and integral in raising children, contrary to what the world portrays.

In our society, fathers have become the butt of jokes and memes on the internet, on television shows, and in comic books clips.

Men are portrayed as bumbling fools who don’t know how to do anything, especially when it comes to the children.

Dad, husband, or man-shaming is very real and much alive in our society. And it does nothing productive, but demote and ridicule men.

Through the slow but steady infiltration of feminism in our society many men have allowed themselves to become emasculated as they have stepped down from their God-given roles to allow women to become the lead in positions they weren’t meant for; such as preachers and heads of the home.

Read more here on the The Priceless Love of a Father

But the truth is that the Lord created the man to be the head of the home, husband, and father. His role is to be the closest thing to the heavenly Father that our children will see this side of heaven.

God uses the Christian father as an instrument for instruction and discipline, in which God commands and administers. Men are meant to be the leaders, heads of home, ministers, and leaders in society.

Does this mean that men are better than women? No

Does this mean men are perfect? No

But, it does mean that men have been created for roles just as women have. And it is time for this feminist-driven society to stop diminishing the importance of the roles of men as leaders, husbands, and fathers.

Men should be allowed to be strong and lead their families the way God intended without being ridiculed or labeled as misogynist just because he is a man.

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Benefits of Having a Father in the Home

Because men usually do not to lead with emotion as women do, they tend to be more logical in their approach to discipline, money matters, and leading their families.

These stats below show the significance of a father in a home.

*Only 1 in 4 children live now with their paternal fathers.
*In 1996, 42% of female-headed households with children were poor, compared with 8% of families with children headed by married parents.
*Girls without fathers in their lives are 2 & 1/2 times more likely to get pregnant and 53% more likely to commit suicide.
*Boys without fathers in their lives are 63% more likely to run away from home and 37% more likely to use drugs.
*Boys and girls without father involvement are twice as likely to drop out of school, twice as likely to go to jail and nearly four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. **Department of Health and Human Services study (1996)

When there is no father or the father is missing in the home, the children in the home are at risk for life-changing, life-altering, life-shattering experiences that will impact them throughout their lifetime.

“Fathers are far more than just “second adults” in the home. Involved fathers – especially biological fathers – bring positive benefits to their children that no other person is as likely to bring. They provide protection and economic support and male role models. They have a parenting style that is significantly different from that of a mother and that difference is important in healthy child development.” (David Popenoe, Life Without Father, (New York: The Free Press, 1996), p. 163.)

The Influence of a Father

A father’s influence on his family is a strong one. When there is a Godly father and husband, a child is more likely to attend church and stay in church as an adult believer.

The following information, I found on Focus on the Family regarding the influence of father involvement in the home and the impact on the child.

  • 82% of studies on father involvement and child well-being published since 1980 found “significant associations between positive father involvement and offspring well-being…” Paul R. Amato and Fernando Rivera, “Paternal Involvement and Children’s Behavior Problems,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 61 (1999): 375-384.
  • In an analysis of over 100 studies on parent-child relationships, it was found that having a loving and nurturing father was as important for a child’s happiness, well-being, and social and academic success as having a loving and nurturing mother. Some studies even indicated father-love was a stronger contributor to some important positive child well-being outcomes.Ronald P. Rohner and A. Veneziano, “The Importance of Father Love: History and Contemporary Evidence,” Review of General Psychology 5.4 (2001): 382-405.
  • According to child psychiatrist Kyle Pruett, a father’s more active play style and comparatively slower response to a toddler or infant experiencing frustration serve to promote problem-solving competencies and independence in the child.Kyle D. Pruett, Fatherneed: Why Father Care is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child, (New York: The Free Press, 2000), p. 41-42.
  • In the words of Dr. Pruett, “positive father care is associated with more pro-social and positive moral behavior in boys and girls.”Pruett, 2000, p. 52. This is borne out by research from the University of Pennsylvania which indicates that children who feel a closeness and warmth with their father are twice as likely to enter college, 75 percent less likely to have a child in their teen years, 80 percent less likely to be incarcerated and half as likely to show various signs of depression.Frank Furstenberg and Kathleen Harris, “When and Why Fathers Matter: Impacts of Father Involvement on Children of Adolescent Mothers,” in Young Unwed Fathers: Changing Roles and Emerging Policies, R. Lerman and T. Ooms, eds. (Philadelphia: Temple University Press, 1993).
  • In a 26-year-long study, researchers found that the number one factor in developing empathy in children was father involvement. Fathers spending regular time alone with their children translated into children who became compassionate adults.Richard Koestner, et al., “The Family Origins of Empathic Concern: A Twenty-Six Year Longitudinal Study,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 58 (1990): 709-717.

Why My Son is an Example to Me

I love this quote from Touchstone Magazine on the importance of a father in society.

You cannot buck the biology of the created order. Father’s influence, from the determination of a child’s sex by the implantation of his seed to the funerary rites surrounding his passing, is out of all proportion to his allotted, and severely diminished role, in Western liberal society.”
It is time as a society that we stop the husband, father, and man shaming. It is time we embrace the role of men, applaud their strengths, and give thanks to a God for the men in our lives.”

Let Him Lead

A man who leads his family and his home will have the greatest impact not only on his children, but the world as well.

A man and a woman who live out their God-given roles as husband and wife while raising their children will leave behind a great legacy for future generations.

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