by Katie White
Homemaking is About the Heart
Homemaking is one of our greatest callings as women. And when I speak of homemaking, I do not mean being a stay-at-home mom who tends to her children, greets her husband at the door when he returns from work with a newspaper and a foot massage, and makes fantastic home-cooked meals with food from the garden that she grows outside.
A homemaker can be single or married, working full-time or staying at home full-time, simple or glamorous, making home-cooked organic meals or popping frozen pizzas in the oven. A homemaker is a woman who keeps a home and desires to bring glory to God in every aspect.
Homemaking comes down to a matter of the heart. It has more to do with who you are working for and trying to please than it does portraying a June Cleaver home from the 1950s. It is about having a Servant Heart: a heart to show love to others and bring glory to God while keeping a home.
A Servant Heart
“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love, serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’” – Galatians 5:13, 14
In Galatians 5:13, it talks about being called to freedom. We are free from the bondage of sin. We are free in Christ because of His great sacrifice. There is nothing more we can do to earn our way to God. The price has already been paid. Because of this freedom, we are called to live in freedom. We are called to show love through serving others. By doing this, we are bringing glory to God.
Serving as if You are Living in Bondage
When we live as if we are still in bondage, it can show in our homemaking. Let’s talk through some difficult heart matters. See if you can identify with any of these.
- As you serve others in your household, do you become easily angered and frustrated?
- Are you keeping a home so perfect so that others will compliment you on your neat and tidy home?
- If someone spills on your light-colored carpet, tablecloth or wood floors, do you feel angry and flustered inside, but keep a fake smile on the outside? (Taking a passive-aggressive approach.)
- When dishes are left in the sink or the table did not get wiped off by one of your kiddos after dinner, what is your response? Do you get irritated and yell?
Serving in Fulfillment of the Law
Serving others has nothing to do with you. In Galatians 3:14, it says, “The law is fulfilled in one phrase: Love your neighbor as yourself.” Serving has everything to do with God. You are fulfilling the whole law through love. Serving others should be the main objective in your household because in serving others, you are demonstrating love to them and pointing right back up to God.
Here are several Scriptures that remind us of our important calling to serve others.
- “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:1,2
- “But now we are released from the law, having died to that which held us captive, so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit and not in the old way of the written code.” – Romans 7:6
- “And you, Solomon my son, know the God of your father and serve him with a whole heart and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches all hearts and understands every plan and thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you, but if you forsake him, he will cast you off forever.” – 1 Chronicles 28:9
- “The greatest among you shall be your servant. Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” – Matthew 23:11, 12
Serving with a Servant’s Heart
Jesus is our prime example of having a servant’s heart. Every day, He served others through His love for them. “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” – Mark 10:45
Jesus’s ultimate service to us was to give up His life so that we may live eternally with God. But even in His day-to-day interactions, He served others. He served them so that He could show the love of God to them. He served regardless if He received anything in return. Serving others = Loving others.
As you read through the verses above, you will notice some common characteristics of someone with a servant’s heart.
- She serves with her entire body as a living sacrifice.
- She does not conform to the world. She serves out of obedience to God and His will and not her own desires.
- She serves from her freedom in Christ and not from the bondage of sin. She serves with a cheerful heart and not one of despair and anger.
- She serves willingly and with her whole heart knowing that God knows her heart and the purpose behind her service.
- She humbly serves. She does not serve for recognition and praise but serves to honor the King.
One point of clarification I want to make is that serving others does not mean becoming a doormat where you do everything for others. As a mother, it is important to instruct your children on how to do things for themselves. However, as you do the tasks that are necessary for keeping your home, do them for the Lord and for His glory.
Spend Time with the Lord
As you consider your heart in keeping your home, are you displaying a servant’s heart? Are you serving with love and patience so that your actions bring glory to God?
Take some time today to sit with the Lord and ask Him to reveal areas where you are serving in the way He intends for you. Ask Him to show you areas where you need to repent and turn toward Him in keeping your home. Is there pride lurking in the deepest corners of your heart? Is there unresolved anger and frustration that you need to bring before the Lord?
He wants to meet you where you are. He wants you to serve others out of complete love for Him. Seek His will for your home and suddenly, serving becomes a natural way of life.
I am praying for you, sister. I pray that you will have a heart for homemaking and bringing glory to God in keeping your home. May His light shine in you and be made known whenever people enter your home. May they be welcomed with love and may they be loved on and served upon out of your love for the Lord.
Katie, the writer behind GRACE + THANKS, is a woman who loves the Lord with her whole heart. She is a wife to her high school sweetheart and together they are raising their five young children to love the Lord with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Keeping a home while bringing glory to God is Katie’s passion for getting up every morning. She loves to bring authenticity of raising a family and working out her walk with the Lord to her writing on graceandthanks.com so that other women can relate and draw near to God.
I hope and pray that you were as blessed as I was by Katie’s article.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home