I have heard it said that the allure of greener pastures proves to be too much for some.
At some point in our life, we all fall victim to the comparison game and find ourselves coveting what others have.
Maybe we want to have a much bigger house like our neighbors.
Or maybe we want to become more beautiful.
Perhaps, we would like to live in a nicer town, drive a nicer car, or have nicer clothes.
Or maybe the comparison and coveting are more serious and you want more from life than what you have right now.
In the past few years, Brian and I have had several close friends who have been married 20 years or more get divorced. Each of these marriages had one partner who thought the grass was greener on the other side.
They found out the grass was not greener, but was filled with weeds like any other pasture would be.
Our carnal nature causes us to want what we cannot have. There is a certain temptation to desire or lust after what we cannot have or shouldn’t have. Money, success, different life, food, drugs, alcohol, or even a different person than our own spouse can be a temptation.
One of the areas where greener grasses are coveted is in the marriage department.
A marriage is like a garden in that it requires tender loving care, pruning, and watering during droughts.
Ladies, keep your garden pruned and tended to on a regular basis. Your spouse is a gift (perfect or not). And when you took your vows, you took them for ‘better or for worse’ in the eyes of God.
Love must be cultivated and pruned, as a garden would. And just as a garden requires sunlight, watering, weeding, and fertilizing; so does a marriage. “Marriages, like a garden, take time to grow. But the harvest is rich unto those who patiently and tenderly care for the ground.” (Darlene Schacht)