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Suddenly at Home: Seven Ways to Help Survive Your New Normal as a Stay-at-Home Mom

Overnight, millions of women have gone from working full-time jobs to stay at home moms who are now homeschooling their children.

Your old normal is gone and a new normal has arrived: homeschooling, cooking, cleaning, and staying home.

Is this you? Are you struggling and overwhelmed as you try to adjust to a new normal?

Seven Ways to Help You Survive as a Stay-at-Home Mom

Create a Block Schedule

If you are not a naturally organized person are finding yourself overwhelmed at how to now organize your time; a block schedule will become your new best friend.

Learn how to create a block schedule.

Find Your Motivation

With the entire family home, there are more meals to cook, more laundry to do, and more cleaning overall. There is so much work to do, and you may need some motivation to get it all done.

How can you find motivation in the mundane? Read more here.

Set Limits on Technology

The natural tendency of many will be to seek entertainment in the forms of technology such as phones, television, or video games.

However, children already spend too much time on technology. Here are some eye-opening stats on technology and children I have found while researching.

  1.  One study found that 75% of children under the age of eight have access to smartphones or tablets.
  2. 56 percent of children, age 8 to 12, have a cellphone
  3. Children aged five to 16 spend an average of six and a half hours a day
  4. Teenage boys spend the longest, with an average of eight hours.

Too much screen time has been linked to obesity, eye strain, and lack of social development in children and young adults. These stats could easily double if left unchecked. Set and enforce limits on screentime.

Homeschooling Help

Set a Time

Just like in a public school children will thrive on a routine at home when schooling. Determine a time that will be for schooling. Keep this same time every day.

There are differences between public school and homeschool, and one of the main ones is that homeschooling often takes less time. My children are often done in 2-3 hours and don’t require the seven hours that public schools do.

When you consider there are no electives, travel between classes, and other activities homeschooling generally takes less time.

Other Helpful Homeschool Tips

  1. Put down your phone. Don’t expect your children to stay off of technology if they see you or another parent scrolling through social media or playing on Pinterest. Of course, this is different if you are working from home as well, and are using a laptop for work.
  2. Be available to guide your children.
  3. Show an interest in their work and applaud their progress.
  4. Set up a work area for children. Keep it stocked with supplies. Make sure chargers are available for laptops, too. Remember, not all children learn the best sitting at a desk. Allow them to be comfortable. My children love to do their reading on the couch or even sitting on their own beds. the goal is to get them to work, not recreate the perfect work zone.
  5. Limit distractions. Turn off phones, alarms, and do your best to create an atmosphere that promotes productivity and encourages learning.

Learn some of those Homeschooling Truths for those Terrible, No Good, Bad Days.

Stay Connected to Others

It is important to stay connected during times like this. When most of us are used to be being able to go to the store whenever we want, have friends or family over to our homes, and see co-workers on a daily basis; these social restrictions are binding and to some may even seem suffocating.

If we feel this way, we must remember that our children will, too. And just like us, our children have close relationships with others that are very integral to their lives.

The sense of community that face-to-face interaction provides is important and to have that stripped away is devastating to many. In order to maintain a sense of normalcy, it is vital to stay connected to others during these times. This can be done by video chats, writing letters, emailing, drive-bys, and phone calls with friends, family, neighbors, and church members.

Seek Balance and Make Self Care a Priority

Dear sweet mamas, now is not the time to stop taking care of yourself. While it is true you may not be able to get to the gym, you can get outside and get some exercise. Go for a walk, race your children, climb trees, go for a hike, do some yard work, or even better do yardwork of an elderly neighbor or family member.

Some other self-care tips:

*Drink plenty of water.

*Eat healthily. But don’t deprive yourself. Enjoy a bowl of ice cream of a few chocolate chips cookies, the goal is not to overdo it.

*Stick to a normal routine for sleep. But don’t get too much sleep, which is not healthy either.

*Limit your own screentime. Put down your phone, turn off the television, and do something other looking at a screen. This may mean sticking to normal work hours and avoiding the temptation to take advantage of extra time at home to work.

Don’t forget your mental healthcare, too. While it may be easy to eat healthily, get enough sleep, and stay physically active; mental health may deteriorate if a balance is not maintained.

Right now anxiety is running high and the tendency to try to ‘do it all’ is strong. The need to strive for perfection is fruitless. Have some grace for yourself and set boundaries. Forgive yourself when plans don’t go the way you had hoped.

Perhaps, you are feeling hopeless as a homeschooling mom, you are falling behind in laundry, your house is a mess, and everybody is fighting.

Breathe. Ask God for forgiveness. Remember He does not expect us to live a perfect life. It is impossible, so why even try?

However, we can take hold of Jesus’ mighty outreched hand, relish in His presence, and know that God’s mercies are new each morning.

Stop Worrying

Below are some verses to consider if you are prone to worry.

John 16:33, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”

Matthew 6:34. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.

Dear sweet sisters in Christ, this earth has seen much worse than what we have going on today. In no way am I diminishing the seriousness of this situation, but I stand here to encourage you to arm yourself with facts and equip yourself with the truth.

The truth is that our Lord is sovereign, we are never alone, and He hears our cries, and hears our prayers.

Stand strong in your faith and as it says in Proverbs 3:5-6,

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Be Blessed,

Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home

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