Speaking Words of Encouragement in Our Homes
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
Speaking Words of Encouragement
How many times have you said or have heard, “I can’t help what I just said?”
Words come spilling out of our mouths without as much thought to the effect that they could have on the listener; either good or bad.
Our children, husband, friends, and family are the ones on the receiving ends of our words, so it is important that choose what we say carefully.
It is important that we remain in control of what we say to others (“do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths”) vs “I can’t help what I say” mentality.
According to the Bible, we are accountable for the words we use (Matthew 12:36).
“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.”
Christians do have the power of control over our words, which can be a powerful influence to those listening.
Who are those listening?
The ones listening to us are the ones we are called to love, serve, and care for: husband, children, family, and friends.
What does it matter?
Imagine two different families over the course of 25 years.
Both families attend church, have both parents present, and appear to be a ‘great’ family from the oustide.
But upon further inspection, family #1 shows little emotion, displays of affection, and when they do speak to teach other it is hurtful, sarcastic, or disrespectful.
However, family #2 is a family where the emotions flow freely, hugs and kisses are doled out regularly, encouraging words are spoken, forgiveness is practiced consistently, and compassion is the displayed throughout.
If we were to take a look at the children of these families in 25 years; the results would be astounding and in stark contrast to each other.
More than likely, the children of family #1 would grow up to be young adults with hardened exteriors that display little emotion where they are unwilling to serve or love others easily.
However, in a family where each member is prayed for, encouraged, given grace, and loved; the results are amazingly different.
Your words could make the difference between a lifetime of despair, discouragement, depression, discontentment, and disappointments vs hope, joy, contentment, faithful living, trusting the Lord, and abiding in Christ.
How are we to speak?
In Ephesians 4:29, Paul gives us two guidelines for how we are to speak.
1. We are to speak in beneficial ways on meaningful things.
2. We are to speak appropriately for the situation we’re in.
What would constitute ‘unwholesome’ talk?
Words that are angry, jealous, unkind, filthy, proud or arrogant, boastful, lies, gossip, disrespectful, rude, evil, or malicious. Instead of offering encouragement, unsavory talk offers no benefits to the listener.
Your words can be a mighty tool to deliver the Message or a tool to tear down. As women, we are to build up our homes, instead of tearing them down.
Ladies, you are the one who can breathe life into your home by the very words spoken.
Be graceful in your words and think before you speak.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home