Beep. Beep. Beep. 3:40 my husband’s alarm went off.
Its spring break here.
My kids were all sleeping. Silence. Solitude. I knew I would have at least three hours before my kids woke up for the day. Instead of falling back asleep I took full advantage of the quiet time. My body was aching for sleep, but my mind was aching to be productive.
So I cleaned the kitchen, did laundry, did some reading, and took a bath. A nice hot bath without interruptions. I had a cup of tea, reading material ready, and hot water all just for me.
I cherish my quiet time. My littles take naps while the older ones are in school. I try to make sure that I get daily quiet time to myself. I try to not overload our family schedule with too much busyness.
We have certain priorities of course between family, school, and church; however, too much in our social calendar causes distractions for my family. We need time to be together as a family. Time to play games, do homework, or just talk. I am big on that. However, the bigger my kids get the more things that pop up. Stress and burnout happen easily. I tend to carry too much stress at time. Being anxious wreaks havoc on me both physically and mentally; and I usually end up taking it out on my family.
Did you know that the average mom gets just 17 minutes a day to herself? One study found that 51% of mom’s regularly go whole weeks without even a single minute relaxing on their own. And nearly 3/4 of the 2,000 mothers studied felt they lived their lives entirely for other people. Whoa!
How can you recharge and rest on a budget and with limited time?
Six Ways for Tired Moms To Find Rest
1. Find your passion:
2. Go easy on yourself:
You got this mama! You are doing great. Don’t try to be the Pinterest perfect mom who has it all down. Nobody is that good, that perfect.
If you make mistakes, learn from them. Pick one day a week and eat sandwiches, chips, and fruit; instead of stressing over what is for dinner. Let your kids do the chores. Don’t try to be a super mom. Smile, laugh, and enjoy those babies. Have confidence that you are doing the best you can do. Are your children fed? Do they wear clean clothes? Do you tell them on a daily basis you love them? If so, you are fine.
3. Wake up 30 minutes early: Or stay up slightly later if you are a night owl.
I am a morning person. I am more productive in the morning. I can do more in 30 minutes without my children awake than I often get done all day. Use this time to read, pray, exercise, or relax in a hot bath.
4. Reward yourself:
Buy yourself a yummy treat just for you. Put in a secret spot that only you know where it is. Enjoy it, savor it. Have a favorite series or movie you want to watch. Buy it, and enjoy it by yourself. Eat your favorite snack with it. Tell yourself this a reward. Do what you need to do to etch this time out in your schedule once or twice a week. Go ahead you deserve it.
There are so many benefits to exercising, both physically and mentally. Of course, we should all exercise to be healthy, but mentally we need it, too. When I am stressed to the point I am going to cry or scream, I lace up my shoes and out the door I go. Thankfully, my husband understands this and does not even question it. He understands that I will come back from a walk or hike in a much better mood because my perspective has changed. Whether I take 20 minutes or am gone for a hour, I needed it. Take the time for yourself doing an physical activity that you enjoy. Trust me you will feel so much better.
6. Schedule girl time:
I have a great group of girlfriends that have been around since the beginning of time. We try to schedule a ‘ladies night’ every so often. No kids allowed. No spouses. Usually coffee and ice cream is on the menu. There is plenty of talking and catching up. We swap recipes, laugh at kid stories, and come back feeling recharged. There are many other things that can be done of course, and these are just a few ideas to get you started. Please take time as a mom for yourself. Your husband and children need you at your best. You cannot be your best if you are stressed and anxious. A calm, rest, and recharged mom is at her best! Have some grace for yourself! Nobody is harder on you, than you.
Breathe. Rest. Relax.
7. Dive into the Word:
Remember, that as a mother and wife you are not superwoman. You cannot do it all. However, you will not find true rest in getting more sleep or hanging out with your girlfriends. True rest can only come from one source: the Lord.
In Him alone you will find rest, peace, and comfort. Our strength is found by resting in the Lord. You will not find rest in tangible things, such as doing yoga, meditation, or watching television.
Meditate on his written Word.
Search the Scripture for his promises.
In Scripture it is written that His burden is yoke is easy and burden is light. (Matthew 11:30) This means that those who are weary and burdened can find rest in Him. And its only then that as overburdened, overwhelmed, and exhausted mothers will find rest.
Meanwhile, here are some verses for you to read and tuck away in your brain for those times when life has got you down.
“God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown Him as you have helped His people and continue to help them.”
“Come with Me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.
“He says, ‘Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations; I will be exalted in the earth.”
“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”