We are a few days into the New Year by now and many of you have set resolutions. Traditionally resolutions are set by well-meaning individuals wanting to better themselves and/or their life in the New Year. However, most resolutions fail because they are so vague. It is difficult to be successful at something that is undefinable and unmeasurable.
Why does this tradition live on when so many people fail to keep the resolutions they make? There are many reasons why resolutions fail:
- Your expectations were not realistic.
- Your resolutions were not properly defined.
- You didn’t have the right mindset.
- Your time management skills are lacking.
- You are living distracted.
- Too much thinking, not enough doing.
- You are in too much of a hurry.
- You’re not tracking your progress.
- You know your what, but not your why.
Before we go any further, allow me to remind you what 2 Corinthians 5:17 has to say about creating a new person, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
If we are born again in Christ, He has created a new person within us. The old things have passed away and the new is here. However, just because we have been created anew does not give us any reason to set better goals to achieve for ourselves.
And as a Christian, I personally feel like it’s in the best interest of my husband and children to set goals that will help me succeed in my role as wife and mother. For years I would set resolutions that sounded a bit like this, “I want to lose 50 lbs, I am going to workout every morning at 5:30, or I will never buy junk food again.” And I failed, year after year.
Resolutions are Vague
Most resolutions center around losing weight, making more money, become organized, and living life to the fullest. Not that there is anything wrong with any of those, but what good are they if nothing changes?
Within the first few weeks of January, resolutions are forgotten and put away on the shelf with the rest of them from previous years. Gym memberships are forgotten. Those healthy cookbooks that you ordered are sitting in your cupboard still in the plastic. The new planner that you picked up at the store (that was going to help you get organized) is still on your desk unopened. The list goes on an on.
So what is one to do?
You have the best intentions when you make resolutions, but they still fail. Year after year, empty promises for a better and hopeful year, fall flat.
Setting a Goal
What worked for me, can also work for you. Instead of a resolution, make a goal.
According to Wikipedia, a goal is an idea of the future or desired result that a person or a group of people envisions, plans and commits to achieve.
If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals, you lack focus and direction. Goal setting not only allows you to take control of your life’s direction; it also provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home