How to Overcome Your Fears in Three Steps
Fear is normal.
It will hold you back.
Fear is a harsh reality of life.
But just because you have fear, does not mean that you are doing something wrong. It does not mean that you are doing something bad.
We all face fear. We all get overwhelmed. Fear can paralyze us.
Overcoming my fears
When I started this blog almost two years I was fearful of many things. I was fearful that I was going to fail. I was fearful that my blog was going to fail.
And I was fearful that others were going to laugh at me, mock me, persecute me, or even see my writing as useless. I thought about quitting my blog on more than one occasion.
BUT I WANTED TO PUSH PAST AND OVERCOME MY FEARS, AND YOU CAN, TOO!
FEARS COMING TO LIFE
Many of my worse fears have come to life while writing this blog. There have been many rude comments, negative reviews, hate mail, and mean private messages that I have dealt with.
There are times that I have been blocked, unfollowed, hidden, and unliked.
Despite a few bumps on the blogging road, I have been on the receiving end of many blessings as well as I seek to teach and encourage women.
Eventually, I began feeling convicted that I should have a deeper purpose for my blog.
I was finally able to taper down the purpose of my blog to a much more narrow audience on Biblical Womanhood and Christian Homemaking, and eventually deciding on Training Keepers of the Home.
FEAR IS PARALYZING
The fear as I narrowed down my niche was overwhelming in the beginning.
It was almost paralyzing at times.
Yet I persisted, prayed, and remained patient. And I wrote words, lots of words.
The writing was the easy part, hitting publish was another. Fear would almost overcome me, in the beginning, every time I hit publish. I began to feel like an imposter.
I began to fear the persecution of others. Being a Mommy Blogger is one thing, but being a Christian Mommy Blogger was another.
Taking the Chance
I was told that I would lose followers with a smaller audience. And told that I would not be as accepted because of my views on feminism, homosexuality, marriage, parenting, children, homemaking, working, and health.
I know that my ministry as a blogger is not as accepted by most, but I don’t write to impress.
I know it is not a popular worldview, but I also know and believe what it says is Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
If I were to let fear stop me from writing the truth, I would not be following the Lord’s commandment in Titus 2:3-5, “likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
Even facing persecution and facing fear every time I hit publish, I stand on His promises and push back the fear.
SOME TRUTHS ABOUT FEAR
*Did you know that ‘fear not’ is in the Bible 365 times? Fear wants us to have a limited view of life. A life with boundaries. A life unlike what the Lord wants us to live. In fact, the Lord has called us to live an abundant life. (John 10:10)
*Having fear can prevent us from ever trying anything.
*You cannot be successful until you have failed. In fact, you may go through several failures on the way to finding success.
*When you fail, it is a good thing because it shows that you are trying and still in the race.
LIVING LIFE ABUNDANTLY
I have had many naysayers in my life who just don’t understand or try to understand my ‘why’ of blogging.
And perhaps you have naysayers in your life that don’t understand your ‘why’ either.
But, you can choose to remain a victim.
A victim to the lies that you and I are not good enough.
I have been a victim of fear mongering thoughts and believed the lies.
You and I have a choice to either listen to the fear and believe those lies that you or I are not good enough.
We can allow ourselves to become overwhelmed, intimidated, and stop dead in our tracks as we become paralyzed by fear.
Or we can tune out the lies and tune into the Word, stand on the Rock, and believe that the Lord wants us to live life abundantly.
So how do we overcome our fears?
- Try it once. Fear is full of possible scenarios. But we are told in Scripture that we are not to be anxious and instead pray and make our requests known to God. (Philippians 4:6)
- Realize we have a choice. We do not have to listen to the voice of fear in our head, remember fear is a liar.
- Believe that you cannot do it alone. What? Yes, you read that correctly. You cannot become successful by yourself. You need the Lord.
- Don’t give up. In order to overcome your fear and push past it to get the other side, you cannot give up. Success is on the other side of fear.
UNDERSTANDING THE WHY
Here I am almost two years later and I am still writing and blogging. I still have fears when I hit publish, but they have lessened.
I have seen the successes in this journey and they have inspired me to keep going. I have been asked to guest post on different sites. I have been asked to participate in various online series for Christian women.
Dave Ramsey even liked one my tweets! Even though mentions, likes, and follows by big-time bloggers are pretty darn cool; that is not why I blog or why I push past my fears.
Keep on Truckin’
I continuously keep pushing past my fears because I am a Christian and we are often called to stand in the face of persecution because of our faith.
My true successes are in the stories of the women that have reached out to me for help, those seeking prayers, and those how have been inspired by my writings to have joy and hope restored in their marriages and families.
These are not my own successes, instead, I am just a vessel for life-affirming words of truth.
Praise God for allowing Him to use me and my blog. It is not about me. It is not about my name, instead, all praise is due Him. Praise God for whom all blessings flow.
“My soul makes its boast in the Lord; let the humble hear and be glad.” Psalms 34:2
Sisters in Christ, whatever your fear is may I encourage you to push past and do it scared! Seek His face above all. Pray for His will to be done.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home