Handling Hormones and Our Husbands

Hormones and Husbands

“Ugh, it’s that time of month and I cannot be held accountable for what PMS does to me.”

“My hormones are making me feel so angry/out of control/crazy that I cannot handle anything right now.”

How do you handle your hormones?

Do you play the victim card and withhold any personal responsibility when hormones are in effect?

Ladies, you are responsible for how you treat your husband whether or not hormones are involved.

If you have been on my blog for any length of time, then you know that I often remind women that we set the tone for our homes.  This is done through our attitudes and actions by speaking life through words of encouragement.

“The wife and mother in a family

often ‘sets the tone’ in the home.

The ‘tone’ God wants her to set is one of joy,

optimism, and a delight in the Lord and in her family.”

 ~ Martha Peace, The Excellent Wife {Page 77}

In an online ministry such as Training Keepers of the Home, I am frequently asked questions regarding marriage and how to react to a husband.

One such question, came in from a reader below.

Husband is in a very stressful time of the year at work and he’s much more critical right now. I may be taking things too personally, but it’s a pattern I’ve noticed. He’s unhappy, so is (unconsciously?) Striking out to make everyone unhappy? I’m going to keep supporting him as I always do, but lately my suggestions just get shot down rather meanly. He did apologize for this morning…. maybe I’m just overly emotional from monthly hormones?

My response follows:

If we answer the call to submit with our whole hearts and be submissive to our (often unkind, unloving, and even mean-spirited) husbands they can be won over by our meek and quiet spirit.

Hormones are a huge source of women overreacting and taking things personally.

I believe that Satan can use these times to distract us from being kind and respectful to our husbands. And while your husbands actions may not be kind or respectful, we are still practice forbearance (forgiveness and respect).

Our attitudes can determine a lot and affect the atmosphere of the home.

Chances are your husband is reacting to his stressors at work and you may be overreacting due to hormonal imbalances. The more stable we can be the more secure our husbands feel.

If they are in a stressful environment at work and come home to a wife who has hurt feelings and is overreacting (not saying you are) he becomes defensive.

I know this speaking from experience. My own dear husband needs me to be level headed, calm, and supportive (even when I don’t feel like it) Our hormones, feelings, and opinions often take a backseat to our husband’s moods, desires, and attitudes; but be encouraged that according to 1 Peter 3:1-6,

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

If we answer the call to submit with our whole hearts and be submissive to our (often unkind, unloving, and even mean-spirited) husbands they can be won over by our meek and quiet spirit.

Be blessed,

Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home

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