As I looked around my home today, I saw all six of my children doing their morning chores.
And as I stood there amid the hum of the vacuum, the swish-swish of the washer, the thump-thump of wet towels in the dryer, the sound of the wet mop hitting the tile floor, my daughter making pancakes in the kitchen, and the clink-clink of another child putting away dishes; I was overcome with gratefulness.
I am grateful for the fact that all six of my children were home with me.
I am grateful that we work together, school together, eat together, and live life together.
I am grateful for the simple things in life.
As a homemaker, my job is not considered glorious by earthly or societal standards.
I receive no paychecks or career advancements.
I will never receive any prestigious awards or get paid vacation time.
Yet, I know that homemaking is my calling and my earthly career. I know I am where I belong.
But I always did not feel this way.
And dear sweet mamas and wives, keepers of your homes, perhaps you are reading this and are thinking to yourself, “I don’t feel this way about being a homemaker. I must be doing something wrong.”
Please allow me to assure you that those feelings are normal. My days don’t always go smooth, nor will yours.
Our children will have grumpy attitudes and days filled with misbehavior.
There will be days that nothing goes right.
There will be days when we feel it is hopeless.
There will be phases in your homemaking that will challenge you beyond your limits. These trials will make you question being a homemaker.
However, we must remember that our work is not about us. Homemaking is not about us. It is by no mistake that we were put in this position as wife, mother, homemaker, and keeper of the home.
Our job, to manage our home, is an honor. However, we may not have a heart that feels like it is calling to be a homemaker.
We may not feel content or enjoy it, not one bit. Yet this is where I want to encourage you in your calling as the keeper of your home to live up to God’s standards, not yours or society’s.
God’s Standards, Not Society’s
Ladies, despite what our culture may tell us, this is not something we can get around, excuse, or ignore; we are called by God to be homemakers and managers of the home. It is a vital part of how we bring him glory in our daily lives.
In today’s progressive society we are told as women that we can and should have it all.
And that we should strive for greatness and not settle for “just being a homemaker.”
I have lost count of the number of times I’ve been told that I am “wasting” my college degree by not having a job or career.
However, God does not measure our success according to the world’s standards but instead by living a life of obedience to Him.
**This is not to say that a woman cannot have a job that calls her from the home, because there are situations where a woman must hold down a job. Nor am I saying that a woman who holds a job is sinning. That is not my call to make. However, we are called to place our homes as a priority.
God’s Calling for Homemakers
As Christ-followers and homemakers, we have a specific calling to manage our homes.
By managing our homes we put the needs those that live within our four walls above our own. We are serving the Lord by managing our homes.
Managing our homes provides the opportunity to glorify the Lord through our actions.
Managing our homes has a significant and profound impact on our children and husbands. Our job has eternal purposes.
Biblical homemaking is so much more than household chores.
How do we learn how to be content?
Learning how to be content is not going to be an overnight endeavor. It is going to take practice.
*Make it your goal to become more content as the keeper of your home, as a wife and mother, and as a believer in Christ.
*Pray over it.
*Ask the Lord to change your heart.
*Pray that the Lord allows you to become like Paul in Philippians when he made this remarkable claim:
“I have learned, in whatever circumstances I am, to be content. I know also how to be abased, and I know how to abound. In everything and in all things I have learned the secret both to be filled and to hunger, both to abound and to lack.”
Discontentment is a state of the soul, not a product of your circumstances.
Colossians 3:15 advises, “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts…. and be thankful.”
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home