Choosing Wisdom over the Ways of the World When Taking Advice From Others
Have you ever received bad advice?
Have you ever followed bad advice?
I have been on the receiving end of bad advice many times, especially regarding marriage and parenting.
Some Bad Advice
Years ago, an older (not wiser) woman told me that once my kids were teenagers parenting would become more difficult.
She said that ‘all teens were rotten’ and it wasn’t worth the battle of trying to discipline them.
She was very bitter about teenagers and she was a mother. How sad it was to hear her say this and what is worse is that so many other’s feel this way about children.
And another time, I was told to ‘hide my purchases’ from my husband so he’d never know how much I spent while shopping!
Also, while I was pregnant with my first child a family member told me to make sure to give a bottle to my child, so I “wouldn’t be tied down to the baby’ after she was born.
What Should We Do?
I am sure we have all received bad advice from other women regarding how to manage our homes, run our marriages, and raise our children.
Because it matters what we hear, watch, or see; this all must be filtered through what I call a “God filter” when it applies to our lives.
As women our lives are impacted by social media, friendships, and the advice that we receive from others. If we are not careful the impact of what we see or hear will affect our expectations on marriage, parenting, and our homemaking.
So what should we do? How do we know if something is sound advice?
How would God answer?
*When it comes to marriage, ask yourself…”Would God have me lying to my husband on any level?”
“Or would God want me to disrespect my husband or do anything to lose his trust?”
*Regarding the parenting of our children, ask yourself, “Would God want me to put my feelings first before my child?”
When is it okay to allow what other parents do or say influence how I raise my children? Proverbs 22:6 says, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”
If the advice that other parents are giving you regarding the raising of your children does not align with Scripture; it is not Biblical advice. Plain and simple don’t listen to it.
When it comes to listening to the advice of others use discernment.
*If the person that is giving you advice has children but are not walking in the faith –reconsider taking this advice seriously.
*Or if the advice giver has been divorced, routinely lies, or does not demonstrate the fruits of the spirit; do not take their advice seriously as well.
The point is to use wisdom when asking for help or taking advice.
In a world full of confusion, where Christians are persecuted and scorned; it is easy to be led astray. So pray dear sisters in Christ. Stand strong in your faith. Ask for wisdom and use discernment.
What you say or do matters. Don’t believe the lies of the enemy as he whispers, “that it does not matter what you do or say.”
None of your effort as a mother is in vain and your effort as a mother runs deep and will have an eternal impact on your children.
Your role as the keeper of your home may be difficult at times, but we must be careful not to follow the ways of the world when managing our homes, submitting to our husbands, raising our children, and walking in the faith.
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”
The holy pursuit of wisdom is one of the most beautiful things in a woman’s life. Because she is seeking out God’s will consistently for her life.
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