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How to Be a Wise Woman by Building up Your Home

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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year dear readers!  Can you believe that 2018 is here? It seems as if 2017 just began.

Reflecting back on 2017 brings on many emotions, especially when considering what a racially, socially, and politically divided year it was for the United States and her citizens. We cannot count all as lost though.

Because even in all of the bad news, God is still sovereign.  He is still Lord, the Alpha , and the Omega.  One must remember to not lose sight of God in things like this.

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Sphere of Influence

We need to remember that as keepers of our home, that we hold the heart of our home in our hands.  Through our prayers, actions, and guidance we help shape and mold who lives within the four walls of our home.

We must also remember that even though we can have a lot of influence, that we still have priorities and Biblical guidelines to adhere and hold ourselves accountable to. Stepping out of the boundaries that God created for us is unnatural and also a perversion of God’s written word. It will not bring forth any peace within our homes if we are living life contrary to how the Lord intended it.

Remember while we may not be able to control the political climate of the United States, as wise women we can build up our homes.


Wisdom: To become wise in the habit of receiving and acquiring God’s wisdom. To discriminate between what is good and evil from God’s perspective, To receive instruction and to exercise correct judgment, Intelligent, sensible and endued with reason and using it. Wise from the experiences of life and of human affairs and relationships, Skilled in divine things, stores God’s wisdom in the heart.

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A Wise Woman Builds Up Her Home

Lori Alexander, from The Transformed Wife, shares in her blog post, How Wise Women Build Up Their Homes, how a woman can build up or tear down her home through the power of her tongue.

“Our words build up or destroy, give life or death. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof (Proverbs 18:21). If you have a problem with your tongue, begin memorizing verses about the tongue and using it for good; for this is what transforms us! Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers (Ephesians 4:29). ” (Lori Alexander)

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Living Contrary to the Word, as a Foolish Woman

If you are not building up your home, then you are guilty of tearing it down. If you are tearing it down you are foolish.  It says in Proverbs 14:1 “Every wise woman buildeth her house; but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”  

Even though we should take the Bible literally, in the sense when it is talking about a woman tearing down her house, it does not mean the woman is phyisically tearing her house apart with bare hands. Instead she does it through thoughtless words and actions.  Here are a few ways a woman can foolishly tear her house down:

:  Focus on our self more than others

:  Neglecting to train children

:  Not managing our homes properly

:  Gossipping and slandering

:  Putting husband and children before God

:  Allowing ourself to be controlled by emotions

:  Not being submissive to our husbands

:  Not staying within our budget

:  Lying to husband

There are many more ways that a woman’s folly can lead to the destruction of her home, however, typically foolish behavior is destructive and not productive for our families.

How do I Learn to Be a Wise Woman?

  1. Start every day off properly with quiet time in your own war room, so you are not producing rotten fruit.
  2. Do this at the same time every day.
  3. Keep a list of your prayer requests and praise reports.
  4. Give thanks to God in everything.
  5. Pray for wisdom and discernment in your role as keeper of the home.
  6. Strive to keep your priorities straight: God, husband, children, and then self.

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How Does a Wise Woman Build Up Her Home?

She seeks God’s will in her life

She prays that God will guide her in every decision in service to God,, in submitting to her husband, in marriage and child-rearing, using her gifts and talents, frugal and wise shopping and every other facet and area of her life.

She seeks the spiritual riches of God through diligent prayer and meditation.

“Through wisdom, a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches” (Proverbs 24:3–4).

We can read in Proverbs 8:10–11 that God’s instruction, knowledge, understanding, and wisdom are of more value than silver, gold, and rubies. She internalizes these precious spiritual riches and uses them to build her relationship with God, her family and others.

She keeps her spiritual house clean and orderly, and also her physical house.

Using God’s Spirit she guards her mind, resisting evil thoughts, gossip, slander and idle chatter. She does not allow her mind to be cluttered with worldly things. “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world” (1 John 2:15–16). We also read: “If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth” (Colossians 3:1–2). She does not allow herself to dwell on the cares of life until they crowd out her spiritual growth.



Sisters in Christ, do you want to get 2018 started off on the right foot? There is no better way than by reading the Bible. I have included for you some verses to meditate on in your quest to becoming a wise woman in 2018. You can find them here by clicking on the link below:

Scripture for 2018.



Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home


5 thoughts on “How to Be a Wise Woman by Building up Your Home

  1. Thank you for this post. It is so helpful in times like this when so many women are foolish and tearing it down. I can only pray that I continue to grow in wisdom regarding my marriage and parenting.

  2. I loved the refreshing perspective here! It is so important to GET RID OF bad habits and REPLACE them with good habits. The two things have to work together, otherwise there will be no progress! Thanks for the encouragement to get my spiritual habits in order.

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