A Gentle and Quiet Spirit in a Feminist World

Some Common Feminist Myths and Lies

Feminist ideology has seeped into every aspect of our society and the damage done by these lies runs deep.

*Feminism whispers in our ears that we are the most important beings.

*Feminism spreads the lie that as women our happiness must come first.

*Feminism says that women must be enslaved if we are to serve our families.

*Feminism preaches that women don’t need men at all.

*Feminism teaches that gender is a social construct, and that men and women are the same.

*Feminism believes that the ‘biological clock’ is not real and that it is okay for a woman to plan her life with her career in the middle.

 Some Truths About Feminism

*The truth is that women are biologically wired to depend on a man. We are unable to have a child without a man and most women really want to become mothers, have a husband for themselves and father for their children, and the protection and companionship that goes along with that.

*The truth is that God created two different genders: male and female.

*God created two genders, and they are part of God’s good creation.

So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27, NRSV)

Genesis teaches that God created humanity male and female in his image and likeness. We are divinely separated into male and female.

*The truth is that a female’s biological clock is real and is ticking. If a woman plans her life around her career (education, career, advancement) and then decides to want marriage and children, she runs the risk of being infertile. Then what happens after she has children, most likely she will head back to her chosen career, because it is how she mapped her life out.

*Feminism makes a mockery out of a man and his leadership position in the home.

*Feminism has caused too many mothers to leave their young nurslings behind as they returned to work, causing the babies to miss out on crucial bonding between mother and child.

*Feminism has increased the number of abortions and allows many others to feel justified in their reasons for abortion.

*The dangers of feminism diminish the role of men, reducing their role to that of only a sperm-donor, baby daddy, or toxic male. Feminism treats men badly. It is not good for men.

Feminism Was Not Part of God’s Design

What feminism was and what it is now are drastically different. It is more than equal pay, the right to vote, or job opportunities for women.

 I am referring to modern feminism who demoralizes and disrespects men, mock mothers who want to stay home, and preach that all of our daughters must go to college and that without a career they have no self-worth.

Feminism contradicts the life that God wants women to live. 

Rather than push ourselves out in the world in search of college education, high-paying career, and self-promotion the way feminism wants us to; women ought to embrace the traditionally feminine roles of wife and mother.

Feminism touts the beauty of independence and self-reliance.  Feminism screams loudly that women don’t need a man.

Feminism promotes thinking which suggests that marriage is a hindrance and children are a burden.  

Feminism screams “gender equality” when the genders are already equal in God’s eyes.

The Bible has clearly defined roles for each gender. Blending the gender roles is not wise. Changing or rebuking what God has laid down as a design for the specific genders is not suggested, because of all of the destruction that it has caused.

How do we undo the damage done by feminism and teach femininity?

If we are to encourage, educate, and edify on the concepts of Biblical Womanhood it must be done in a loving way, a nurturing way, and with the utmost kindness.

Our society is alive with many different voices and opinions; each one screaming louder than the other as they clamor for attention.

Everybody feels they must stand up to injustice and fight for human rights.

It is as if everyone has a voice and they’re using it with a megaphone. If you are quiet, you will be run over by another opinion.

You are considered weak if you are quiet, but as women, we don’t need to stand in public holding a picket sign to get our point across. There is no need to yell or become carried away as feminists often do.

Rather, we should follow the example set forth in 1 Peter 3:3-4, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

A gentle and quiet spirit is the fruit of a feminine woman.

Rather than seeing gentleness and meekness as a weakness, she knows that her beauty does not come from external appearances. Contrastingly, she walks in peace knowing that her worth is based on an internal strength that God finds beautiful.

Feminity is comfortable with the way our Creator made the world and the established Biblical order of creation.

Feminity is being at peace and having a meek and quiet nature. Because femininity understands that meekness does not equate to weakness and that a quiet spirit does not mean a woman mustn’t speak her opinion.

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. “— 1 Peter 3:3,4

When Peter is using the word “quiet” in this verse, he is employing the use of the Greek word hisuchios. This word refers to a person who knows how to calm herself, maintain a sense of peace and tranquility, and is in control of her emotions.

Rather than speak up and utter words that are later regretted, this individual stays quiet and refrains from angry responses. A quiet and meek woman deliberately decides not to be a contributor to conflicts, but to be a peacemaker instead.

A meek and quiet wife is not timid or shy, rather a woman who is in control of her strength. She chooses to be a pillar of strength for her home, husband, and family.

She is the complete opposite of a feminist who feels the need to scream in order to be heard. Rather she allows herself to be a tranquil force of peace within her home. Her price is valuable in the eyes of God.

Rather than emotionally overreact, she proceeds in a logical manner and prayerful over her emotions. A feminine woman who is meek and quiet has allowed God to teach her how to look to Him rather than be swayed by the circumstances of life.

The eternal impact of a feminine woman is farther reaching than a loud, obnoxious woman who insists on being heard.

The meek will be at rest in the storms of life (Matt. 11:28–30Ps. 37:7Heb. 4:1–11)

The meek woman finds her worth and value in knowing who she is in Christ (Eph. 1:3–8).

A feminine woman is meek, quiet, and gentle.

Just a brief sidenote, on the use of the terms gentleness and meekness.

Gentleness refers generally to actions, whereas meekness refers to attitude—one’s whole state of mind as well as actions.

Meekness produces gentleness, which is why meekness is one of the beatitudes—beautiful attitudes for which God promises blessings (Matthew 5:5).

How do I become more fruitful?

If, after reading this are you are still questioning whether or not you are feminine enough, especially in the areas of meekness, gentleness, and quietness; please be encouraged with the thought that the Holy Spirit is the only way to completely transform your lives.

“But the fruit [product, effect] of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).

We need God, each and every step of the way. None of us as men or women are perfect. If you, like me, feel like you fall short as a woman on a regular basis; you are not alone.

The good news is that God doesn’t leave us on our own to change or grow in these virtues.

By putting your faith in God, repenting of your sins, and being baptized, we can “receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” (Acts 2:38). And that gift includes wonderful fruit such as gentleness, meekness, and quietness.

What do you sense that God is telling you about the needed changes in your life, attitude, and actions as a woman, wife, mother, and homemaker?

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