But, I Did Not Marry Prince Charming…….8 Ways to Help You Divorce-Proof Your Marriage
Where is my Prince Charming?
Are you like most women in America these days, wondering where your Prince Charming went?
Maybe your husband is driving you crazy these days.
You don’t feel any passion in your marriage.
Or perhaps maybe you are considering divorce.
In this self-entitled world, ending a marriage is easy as a ordering a Big Mac.
Okay, maybe not quite that easy, but the lure of ending a marriage makes it appealing and oh-so-easy for those who just want OUT!
If you could look back to the day you first married, would you ever consider that you’d be where you are now?
Did you get married with the thought, “I can always leave him if things don’t work out?” No, of course not!
Most of us brides do not think this way in the beginning, especially when we are all aflutter with passionate love and have stars in our eyes.
We believe we will be married forever, but the sad reality is that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
How can your divorce proof your marriage?
Is there a way to keep your marriage healthy enough to weather the storms of life, giving it the longetivity in a world where marriages often don’t thrive?
While nothing is 100% foolproof, especially marriage, there are some actions and choices that you can take to nagivate your marriage through the treacherous waters in life.
TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF
Often when a woman is unhappy, she bases her entire outlook on the current circumstances in her life.
Her husband is unkind, her children are being disrespectful, and she is bored and lonely.
However, before basing your source of happiness on the behavior of others, you must take a good deep look into your own heart.
Are you harboring bitterness, resentment, or anger against your husband?
If so, these can become deeply rooted in your heart and directly impact your relationship with him.
What issues of the heart do you need to work through first, before you start projecting your problems that are making you unhappy on your husband?
Be sure that any marriage problems are not being caused by you. We are exhorted in Matthew 7:5 to “…...first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
In her post on 10 War Room Scriptures, Arabah Joy shares from her blog, why “…prayer is such a vital part of our walk with the Lord, and it’s a spiritual discipline that we know to be extremely important.”
Whenever in doubt pray. When you are happy, sad, angry, or struggling in your marriage turn to prayer.
Pray for wisdom, strength, and peace in your marriage.
Please read more of her advice here.
USE THE BIBLE AS A GUIDEBOOK
By reading the Bible and using it as a guidebook for our marriages is how God intended it.
No greater resource graces the earth than the Bible. It is chocked full of helpful examples and verses that serve as a model for our marriages.
You can learn to love, honor, and respect your husband the way we are advised in the Bible.
The confines of the blog do not permit me to list every single verse related to marriage and love, the following five below are a good start for wives to meditate on pray about.
Scripture provides many opportunities for husbands and wives for instructions on marriage.
Before putting your trust in a marriage counselor, weekend retreat, a book, or by taking a marriage class; turn to Scripture. The living breathing Word of the Lord, who created man and wife to be together in marriage.
Read what the Bible has to say about the sacred union between a man and wife. You will find topics such as intimacy, respect, love, honor, submission, and the holiness of marriage.
FIND A GODLY MENTOR
My whole life I have been blessed to be surrounded by those who have been married for decades. In fact, my great-grandparents had been married for sixty four years at the time of my great granddad’s death.
These couples have weathered all sorts of problems such as bankruptcy, infertility, illnesses, death of a child, loss of their homes, and many more difficulties.
Each of these couples loved and served God. Their faith was deeply rooted in God no matter what they weathered.
Finding a Godly couple or a Titus 2 mentor that would help guide and teach you. Just by having a Godly mentor it can help ensure a more hopeful and positive outlook for your marriage.
It would a provide an example of what a holy and heavenly marriage would look like.
Even though respect is one area in the marriage that both spouse should have for each other: the wife is specifically exhorted to respect her husband. (Eph. 5:33)
It is the duty of the wife to treat the leadership of her husband with high regard and deference. When we do this we are recognizing the God-given character of the headship of our husbands.
The idea of a woman dutifully respecting her husband goes against the very grain of society. It is not a popular concept because of the infiltration of feminismistic roots in society.
However the Bible is very specific in that women are to respect their husbands. Not only respect when they feel like it, but respect 100% of the time.
Acting in a respectful way towards our husband isn’t an option if we are to act in accordance with God’s will. It is imperative, a command that wives must respect their husbands.
How does a wife who wants to have a heavenly marriage show her husband respect?
In this link I have listed four ways that a wife can show her husband respect, according to the way Paul wrote about in Ephesians 5:33.
Your marriage is a sacred union between you and your husband. It will not always be an easy thing to work at; but with trust in the Lord, hope in His faithfulness, and love for your husband, all things are possible.
Just by learning how to put your love into action towards your husband, your marriage can be impacted for the better.
By clicking here, you can learn 15 TIPS FOR PUTTING LOVE INTO ACTION.
REMEMBER HIS HUMAN NATURE
We are not perfect creatures and since the original sin in the Garden of Eden, mankind is prone to sin.
This means that our human nature often paves the way for our actions and dictates our lives.
Are you perfect?
Unless you are perfect yourself, and we’re not, there is no room to judge.
“Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5
COMMITMENT: MAKE IT A PRIORITY
The Lord should be our number one priority, followed by that of our husbands and children.
Marriage is hard work. It takes time to cultivate a marriage with great communication, trust, and joy.
Don’t lose hope in your marriage when things seem rough or hopeless.
Through the darkest of times and the toughest trials, a marriage that survives can become stronger when it stands on the Rock.
May you be encouraged to pray, hope, respect, submit, and love your husband.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home