3 Qualities of a Happy Home
Is your home one of those Pinterest perfect homes?
Do you have your home arranged as if it was staged for a photo shoot?
Do you spend tons of money organizing and beautifying your home?
You may have the world’s most beautiful home, but it may be missing a crucial factor. Does your home have a heart?
It does not matter where you live or what you live in, as long as it feels like home.
A happy home has a heart. The heart of a home is the people who live there.
WHERE DO YOU LIVE?
It does not matter where you live or what you live in. It could be a mud hut with a thatched roof or a tent in a homeless camp.
Or a trailer in a rundown part of town.
Or above a garage in a one room studio apartment.
Maybe you live in a large house.
Where you live and what you live in does not matter as much as what fills that home.
Your family makes it a home.
I have seen homes from the outside that look dark and foreboding, but upon entering I was immediately enveloped in the warmth and homeyness of the place. It was if as I could literally could feel the love and sense the warm comfort in that home.
On the other hand, I have been in these beautifully organized homes that were impeccable, but were void of love and warmth. The keeper of the home cared more for the outward appearances than the hearts of her family. These homes had everything and were touted as being ‘perfect’ but there was nothing that said home about them.
As homemakers aka the keepers of our home; we have an enormous responsibility of managing our homes. Along with that responsibility comes the fact that we must make our dwelling place a home.
I am not talking about creating the perfect home, but instead what makes a truly happy home.
THREE CHARACTERISTICS OF A HAPPY HOME
1. CLEAN AND ORGANIZED
NOTHING is more welcoming than walking into a home that smells fresh and that is clutter free. It is says ‘hello, I have been waiting for you, please come and sit down for a bit.’
When it comes to cleanliness, what does your home say? Is there a mad dash and scramble to hide things in the closet, spray air freshner, and close bedroom doors? Would you feel comfortable having guests over at any time, even surprise guests?
Having a Clean Home
There are many reasons why you should have a clean home. Yet the most important reason is to take care of what the Lord has given you and to show your family that you love them by preparing a clean home.
But your job as keeper of the home is to help organize and manage the aspect of a clean home. If you have children, they should be involved in picking up, putting things away, and doing chores.
Having an Organized Home
An organized home is a home that is efficient and smoothly running. By managing our homes we are bringing order to our homes.
By bringing order, it is then that our homes become a place of tranquility and peace. Our children and husbands can relax and feel loved.
How do we make our homes tranquil and peaceful?
By establishing routines and schedules our homes become organized and clean. An organized home is uncluttered.
Disorganization tends to breed chaos, which causes stress. Stress then can easily overwhelm us and in many cases almost causes a paralysis of sorts, which prevents us from even attempting to clean or organize our homes.
How do we stay organized in our homes? Read here for more tips on that……5 TIPS FOR BEING ORGANIZED
2. LIFE IS SPOKEN
If you have been on my blog for any length of time, then you know that I often remind women that we set the tone for our homes. This is done through our attitudes and actions by speaking life through words of encouragement.
Our home will become a happy home when there is love.
It becomes a happy home when life affirming words of truth are spoken. A house that is ruled by anger, hatred, pain, abuse, distant and strained relationships, and the lack of joy; are overall not a loving home to be in.
Instead a house (no matter what it looks like inside or out) that is filled with joy, laughter, affection, forgiveness, desires, and passions is a loved in and lived in home.
As keepers of our homes, our main focus should be on the hearts of those that live under our roof.
Taking a Good Look at Ourselves
*Do you have the hearts of your family?
*Do they know they are loved?
*Do they see you laugh, smile, and hug them multiple times a day?
*Do you serve your husband?
*Do your children know they are a priority in your life?
*Do you place God first and above all?
*Do you seek Him on a daily basis?
*Do you forgive easily and show it in your actions?
*Are you tense, angry, and distant from everybody?
*Is there a spirit of anger that dominates the home?
Ladies, it is time to make a change if any of these sound like your home.
But please do not despair or feeling guilty about past mistakes you have made.
***You must be able to forgive yourself and refuse to give in to self-pity. Self pity threatens to swallow us and turn our sin into something bigger than wht it is.
None of us are perfect homemakers. Be sure to seek forgiveness, strive for change, and trust in the Lord.***
Anything that God desires for your family is worth having.
It takes hard work and may take time; but it is never too late to late to start making a goal to have a home that is filled with spiritual growth, prayer, laughter, love, forgiveness, trust in the Lord, grace, patience, and LOVE.
EXTERNAL OR INTERNAL FOCUS
We love our families. We want to serve our families. We want the best for our families, right? We want our homes to be the place where our families feel the most welcome, right?
This is not done by creating house that is fit for HGTV. There seems to be this ”my-house-must-be-fit-for-HGTV’ mental focus in society. However, there is one difference between a house and a home.
A home is where we live and who lives in it, not just the external and outward appearance of it. It is a sense of shallowness, with those focused on the outward adornment of their homes.
Christian living calls us to a deeper level of living and contentment by not placing our energies, focus, and priorities on outward, shallow things. And our homes fit into this category.
Within our homes there should be a level of contentment that permeates everything we do or say. While it is good to have the desire for bettering our lives, improving our situation, and having goals.
This drive to have a bigger and better life, to become more rich, and to be more successful often causes a feeling of discontentment. You end up becoming unhappy with what you have and feel that you will be happier with something else, something newer, something bigger, and so on.
The Bible has a lot to say on the level of contentment that man is to have and these are just a few of the verses, but each one pointedly shows us where the direction of our hearts should be.
“Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:11-13.
“A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.” Proverbs 14:30
“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21
“For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content.” 1 Timothy 6:7-8
“Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. …” 1 Timothy 6:6-11
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Ladies, true peace and true contentment are unable to be fulfilled through various means that only leave you empty as where you began. “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever” 1 John 2:17 (NIV).
Think about that a minute. You know we will all die, but where you will spend eternity is important. “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.” Matthew 6:19-20. (NIV)
Where are your treasures? What makes you happy? What treasures are you storing up in heaven?
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home