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Set Goals, Not Resolutions for the New Year

Are you like me and every year you set resolutions that go something like this?

“I want to lose 50 lbs by the beginning of next year.”

“I am going to get organized and keep my home clean every single day.”

“Every day I am going to read my Bible before my family wakes up.”

But here you are at the end of 2018 and as we head into 2019, yet again you failed to keep your resolutions?

Good-Bye 2018 and Hello 2019

We are a few days into the New Year and by now many of you have already set resolutions for 2019.

Traditionally resolutions are set by well-meaning individuals wanting to better themselves and/or their life for the New Year.

These resolutions are often difficult to keep.

It is difficult to be successful at something that is undefinable and unmeasurable.

Resolutions Fail

So, why does this tradition of setting resolutions live on? Especially when when so many resolutions fail?

There are many reasons why resolutions fail:

  • Your expectations were not realistic.
  • Your resolutions were not properly defined.
  • You didn’t have the right mindset.
  • Your time management skills are lacking.
  • You are living distracted.
  • Too much thinking, not enough doing.
  • You are in too much of a hurry.
  • You’re not tracking your progress.
  • You know your what, but not your why.

Resolutions in Scripture

Before we go any further, allow me to remind you what 2 Corinthians 5:17 has to say about creating a new person,

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

If we are born again in Christ, He has created a new person within us.

The old things have passed away and the new is here.

Our lives have been made new from the moment we have accepted Jesus as our Savior.  Our old life, complete with sinful lifestyle is gone.

Just as our old lifestyle is gone and a new life in Christ has been given, so is the New Year!

Out with the Old and in with the New

We have been given the gift of a new year, 2019 is a gift to us!

If this past year was not a good year for your family, behold this upcoming year as a new gift.

A new year for creating special memories and a great time for setting goals instead of resolutions.

Why Goals? And Not Resolutions?

“Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)

I know that for me as a Christian homemaker, that my goals should be centered primarily around my faith walk, my husband and children, and our home.

For years I would set resolutions that sounded a bit like this, “I want to lose 50 lbs, I am going to workout every morning at 5:30, or I will never buy junk food again.”

And I failed, year after year.

How to set goals, no more resolutions

Resolutions are Vague

Most resolutions center around losing weight, making more money, become organized, and living life to the fullest.

Not that there is anything wrong with any of those, but what good are they if nothing changes?


Within the first few weeks of January, resolutions are forgotten and put away on the shelf with the rest of them from previous years.

*Gym memberships are forgotten.

*Those healthy cookbooks that you ordered are sitting in your cupboard still in the plastic.

*The new planner that you picked up at the store (that was going to help you get organized) is still on your desk unopened.

The list goes on an on.

So what is one to do?

You have the best intentions when you make resolutions, but they still fail.

Year after year, empty promises for a better and hopeful year, fall flat.

Setting a Goal

What worked for me, can also work for you. Instead of a resolution, make a goal.

According to Wikipedia, a goal is an idea of the future or desired result that a person or a group of people envisions, plans and commits to achieve. 

If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals, you lack focus and direction. Goal setting not only allows you to take control of your life’s direction; it also provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding.

So, how does set a goal? Click here to find out more,


Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home

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