Butterflies and Giggles
Do you remember the day you walked down the aisle with your husband?
If you could think back when you first met or were dating your husband, do you remember the butterflies and laughing at everything he said? You and your husband probably spent hours talking, laughing, and dreaming of the future together.
Oh, Where Did My Love Go?
Just as we age, gain weight and wrinkles, and go gray; changes are inevitable within marriages. Most marriages go through peaks and valleys, where the feelings of love ebb and flow.
There are times you feel in love and times you really struggle to even be kind.
Our husbands need our respect and we can show them respect by being of an encouragement. Below are twenty ways to encourage your husband in marriage.
20 Ways to Show Encouragement Your Husband
- Go clean out his car.
- Send a hand written letter to his place of employment.
- Do your hair in a way, that he will know its specifically for him.
- Buy him a small token of love. It can be anything that expresses the fact you were thinking of him.
- Fix his favorite meal and dessert.
- Go out and do an activity with him that he really enjoys.
- Get a framed photo of yourself (and the kids) for his office.
- Sit him down and give him a long massage. (This is my husband’s favorite)
- Bake him his favorite dessert.
- Be his sounding board and just listen to him, without interrupting or giving your opinion.Really listen to him when he speaks. Listen with your whole body.
- Ask him how you can pray for him.
- Tell him thank you on a regular basis.
- Tell him why you appreciate him.
- Read the Song of Songs together. Rekindle those romantic feelings and awaken a sleeping giant. Trust me, you won’t regret this.
- Don’t force him to be something he is not, God made him the way he is for a reason. Trying to force him to change, is not going to encourage him instead it will turn him away.
- Be available and consistent for him, just as you would like in return.
- Smile when you greet him and look him in the eyes. Show him with whole being that you are delighted to see him.
- Respect his final answers, without nagging or trying to guilt him into changing.
- Tell him you love him, appreciate him, and respect him. He should not have to question whether you love him or not.
- Get a babysitter, make arrangements ahead of time, and go somewhere just the two of you.
This Won’t Work on My Husband
Perhaps, you are married to a difficult man and your marriage is less than desirable. Before you quit reading at this point, stating, “there is no hope for my marriage”-let me share with you an encouraging passage from the Bible.
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won overwithout words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.” 1 Peter 3
So, why am I sharing this with you?
When we submit to our husbands, who are our earthly head, we are submitting to him the way the Lord intended. The beauty of the Gospel is played out in marriages when husbands and wives living according to the Scriptural truths.
In this passage, Peter does not tell the wife to preach or to argue with her husband. What he does is, tell her something very simple–nothing else than to be a good wife.
It is by the silent preaching of the loveliness of her life that she will break down the barriers of prejudice and hostility, and win her husband for her new Master.
This Scripture is often pointed at unbelieving husbands, for whom the wife can change by her willingness to serve her husband. However, it can also be applied in the sense that a husband who is unchanging in some ways that affect the marriage, can also change, through his wife’s submission. (www.studylight.org commentary notes)
What Should a Wife Do?
Peter encourages women to stick with their husbands, even if they are unsaved or not perfect in marriage. He goes onto to say that a wife must be:
*She must be submissive. It is not a spineless submission that is meant but, as someone has finely put it, a “voluntary selflessness.” it is the submission which is based on the death of pride and the desire to serve. It is the submission not of fear but of perfect love.
*She must be pure. There must be in her life a lovely chastity and fidelity founded on love.
*She must be reverent. She must live in the conviction that the whole world is aTemple of God and that all life is lived in the presence of Christ. (www.studylight.org commentary notes)
Are you looking for some for some encouragement in your marriage? Head on over to Training Keepers of the Home, for great articles and helpful resources on Christian marriage and parenting. There you can find some encouragement, like this, Learning How to Love Our Husbands.
Your husband, marriage, and family are worth the prayers, effort, and energy to invest in. The enemy delights in tearing apart families and will find weaknesses to get his foot in the door. Secure your marriage and it begins by being on your knees in prayer for your husband.
Stephanie, Training Keepers of the Home