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How to Be a Perfect Woman…Not What You Would Expect

If you are not perfect, then you must be doing something wrong.

 That got your attention, didn’t it?  Do you feel the need to be perfect, especially in the areas of being a wife and mother?

The need for perfection can be a daily battle for millions of women. The struggle is real and as a result,  too many women are living a depressed and joyless existence. Perhaps, even feeling hopeless in some cases.

Face it, being a woman is often difficult due to the overwhelming amount of information we have thrown at us. There are beauty, health, diet, and self-confidence tips that are all aimed at helping you improve yourself.  As women all too often we hear messages like this, “feel better if you do this…., lose weight if you do this……. , think this…… , do that…….” 

No wonder as wives and mothers, we feel it is difficult to measure up.  If we don’t measure up, we feel like a failure.

Are you striving to be that Pinterest Perfect Mom? Or do you feel validated by how many likes you get on Instagram? Does scrolling through your facebook newsfeed often leave you discontent because you saw what your friends have?

It is human nature to want to better ourselves. It is natural to feel disappointed if we do not achieve those goals we set for ourselves.  However, when we become depressed, joyless, or hopeless; then it is time to ask ourselves these questions.

  1. What am I listening to?
  2. What is the message?
  3. What do I believe about myself?
  4. Who am I trying to please?
  5. What do I want to be?

 

Voices, so many voices

        Beautiful woman, listen to this. You were made by God, the Creator, to be you. You are unique.  Don’t be something you are not supposed to be.  God has plans and desires for you. His plans are for you to prosper, to do well, and to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)  How great is that!  The Creator of the universe, loves you so much that He desires good for you.
        It does not mean that we will not encounter tough trials in life, that is just a fact. Being a Christian does not protect us from ever having to suffer in life, but we can cling to the hope that we have in Christ. The hope that promises us, that He will give us confidence in whatever trial we may be facing.
        There are some truths you need to know. There is not one thing about you that God does not know. He knows your heart, understands your feelings and thoughts, even before we do.  He knows every intimate detail about you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. From your highest highs to your depressed lows, He is near. He does not leave you, ever.  He is the light in the dark. You were created perfectly for His purpose. Your misconceptions and misunderstandings about yourself are used by Him to bring not only you hope, but to be a light to others as well.
Psalm 139:13-16 is a great illustration of how precious we are to the Lord.

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.

 Dear woman, you are loved. So knowing this, how does one know what we are to listen to?

1. We are to listen the voice of the One who created us

2.  We need to know and believe how loved we are and how precious we are

3.   We need to live unafraid of our expectations

Living unafraid of expectations

           Do you ever read a quote or some Scripture that speaks directly to your heart?  Well, that happened to me this morning. It was my aha moment!  All of my children were sleeping and two were gone with my husband to a tractor show. I was enjoying the silence and a good book when I came across something in my reading that stopped me right in my tracks. It made me think how limited we are by what we hear from others and the effect it can have on us. The following quote by LeeAnna Swart sums it up perfectly, “…….learning to live unafraid of expectations. With our hope rooted in truth, we can move forward with confidence in our decisions. With a God greater than our failures, we can trust His plan for the future. With the knowledge that only God-not our fulfilled expectations-can supply happiness, we can serve the Lord with joy and be content in whatever circumstance.” from the book, Exquisitely Imperfect, Choosing Life Unfiltered.  The book is from the Bible-Teaching Ministry of Charles R. Swindoll.  This book has been a game changer for me.
        As a Christian wife and mother, it is essential to trust God in all areas of our life, stop trying to become perfect, embrace our own unique personality and characteristics, and allow His work to be made complete in each of us.
 

4 thoughts on “How to Be a Perfect Woman…Not What You Would Expect

    1. We all need that encouragement at different times, helps to keep our focus on why we’re doing what we’re doing.

    1. A message all women need to be reminded of, one that we know and believe how unique we are in our Father’s eyes.

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